Marilyn
Washington Harris aids Oakland's forgotten and its shunned. Since
losing her only son to the gun in 2000, and finding no help
available, she has dedicated her life to stepping into the immediate
aftermath of homicides to provide help, hope and healing to stunned,
angry, mourning families. Daily, she guides Oaklanders through the
craziness, the hopelessness, and the business -- coroners, funerals,
city offices, police -- of being a survivor. In 13 years, at homes,
at crime scenes, at churches, chapels and funeral homes, she has
aided thousands of families, making appointments and arrangements,
accompanying them, protecting them from exploitation and beginning
the healing process with patience, love and trust. A government clerk
when her son was killed, she has become a vocal advocate for peace, a
model of selfless service, an inspiration to a generation of violence
prevention workers, and a healer of the city and its victims.
Background
(of the problem Miss Marilyn addresses in her work)
For more
than three decades now, Oakland has had one of the highest homicide
rates in the nation. Police and programs exist for the prevention of
violence, but very little has ever been done for the survivors of the
killed who, lost and scarred, frightened, often friendless and poor,
must continue to live and function in the community. When her son was
killed in 2000, Marilyn Harris found that there was no one to guide
loved ones through the great uncertainty, through the grim business
so suddenly at hand in the wake of the violent death of a son,
husband, daughter, wife. Suddenly, in a mental and emotional daze,
there are police to deal with, coroners, city clerks, funeral
arrangements, often with very limited funds. The opportunities for
neglect and exploitation are many. Through the lonely, often bitter
process, the anger, sadness and alienation of the survivors are only
increased and solidified. To ignore their needs is to let their
wounds fester. It is to risk returning them to the community utterly
bereft and hopeless. To aid them, is to demonstrate that love and
healing are still possible.
What She Does
Sometimes
she gets a text, or a colleague calls. Often, the police call Marilyn
Harris when there has been a homicide in Oakland. Sometimes neighbors
of the killed call; they know it's time for Harris to do her work, as
only she can. She steps into the bleakest environments, at crime
scenes, in homes under a cloud of shocked mourning. She connects with
the sufferers, demonstrates rare understanding in the face of anger,
confusion, even hostility, casting a balance between compassion and
necessity. She finds the right moment for the business at hand, then
provides knowledge, will, and a clear mind. Harris knows the system,
from cops to florists to morticians. She makes appointments at
funeral homes, at the coroner's office, at victims' services. She
meets you there, or drives you, assures you are cared for and not
exploited. She scrapes and scrounges for funds if you need them,
checks if you have taken your medications, if you need food or
childcare. She is with you at the funeral, there for you as you
return to life. For many, she becomes for a time the one person they
know they can trust and believe in. They never forget it.
Her Impact
More than
1,000 people have been killed in Oakland since 2000, when Harris'
son was murdered in West Oakland. Nearly all of the 1000-plus
victims' families have been helped through their most excruciating
days by the sure hand of Miss Marilyn, as Harris is known throughout
Oakland. With a minimal staff and small budget, Harris has almost
single-handedly aided thousands of Oaklanders. When her son was
killed, there was no one to help the survivors; they were the
forgotten people, often shunned even within their own communities.
And they would remain bitter, sometimes bent on revenge. Now, instead
of returning survivors of the killed to the world alone and lost, she
returns people who have begun the process of healing. The impact of
her work spreads far beyond the individuals she guides, far beyond
the days and weeks after a homicide. Even the police rely on Harris
to calm the roiling souls of survivors so they can do their
investigative work. To grieving families, she is a vivid reminder
that the whole world is not against you. To anyone who knows her, she
is a symbol of the possibility of carrying on against the greatest
odds. Marilyn Harris saves lives.
Her Leadership
When her
son was shot dead in 2000, Marilyn Harris had billboards erected
across West Oakland with his picture and the stark question: Do
You Know Who Killed Me? We still don't, but ever since then she
has been an unapologetic defender and proponent of the victims of
Oakland's implacable problem with violence. She is the inspiration
for countless survivors and for violence prevention specialists
throughout the city. An accomplished public speaker of unimpeachable
credibilty, Harris is an articulate and reasoned voice of reality in
a city grasping for healing. She has the ear of everyone, from city
leaders to wounded and disaffected victims. In her own life, with
self-effacing modesty, she demonstrates acceptance without surrender,
while cajoling the powerful and the seemingly powerless to move
forward, to see reality, to choose peace and forgiveness, and to
maintain faith in the city and its people. With her humor, her
honesty, her belief in the necessity of love and healing on a
personal and a civic level, she is an example of the strength and
fortitude to be found deep inside all of us. Every day, she leads
individuals towards healing and Oakland toward its better self.
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